5 Tips for Transitioning to Toddler AgeIs Your Toddler REALLY Ready for a Bed? The Truth About Crib Transitions

Are you battling bedtime with your toddler? Constantly getting out of bed, fighting naps, or waking up all night long? You might think a new “big kid” bed is the answer, but hold on! One of the most common mistakes parents make is rushing the transition out of the crib too early.

Believe it or not, research suggests that waiting until your child is closer to their third birthday can lead to fewer sleep struggles, less nighttime waking, and longer, more restful sleep. Before the age of two and a half, most toddlers simply don’t have the cognitive maturity to grasp the concept of staying in bed, no matter how much you explain it.

If you’re like me, you might even consider co-sleeping with your toddler an option if they are constantly getting out of their crib.

I know it’s tempting to create that adorable “big kid” room, but keeping your little one safe and secure in their crib a little longer can actually make the eventual transition to a toddler bed far smoother.

When Is the Right Time?

Eventually, every kid will move to a bed (if only they could stay little forever!). So, how do you know when your toddler is truly ready? Here are some signs:

1. They’re consistently climbing out of the crib: This is a safety issue above all else. If your toddler is regularly scaling the crib walls, it’s time to consider a change. However, before you do that, you can try these tricks:
   • Lower the mattress to the lowest setting.
   • Turn the crib around (some cribs are taller on one side).
   • Place the crib in a corner to limit climbing access.
   • Use a sleep sack to restrict leg movement.
   • Use a pack n play or crib in your room (sometimes if mom and dad are closer they won’t climb out)
   • co-sleeping is a last resort option if you are in survival mode and just need the sleep. I was doing this by baby #3 for my sanity!
2. They’re asking for a “big kid” bed: Sometimes, toddlers simply express a desire for a bed like their older siblings or friends. This usually doesn’t happen until around age 3.
3. They’ve outgrown the crib: If your toddler is cramped or you’re struggling to lift them in and out, it might be time. This typically occurs around 3 to 3 1/2 years old.

If you’re not seeing these signs, resist the urge to rush the transition, especially if sleep is already a challenge.

When to Avoid the Transition

• A new baby is on the way: Don’t make your toddler feel replaced by moving them out of their crib right before the baby arrives. Consider other sleeping arrangements for the baby temporarily.
• You think it will magically fix sleep problems: Moving to a toddler bed just changes sleep issues. They all the sudden have freedom to get out of bed now, so there is a whole new sleep training adjustment period.
• Outside pressure: Don’t let others dictate your timeline. Every child is different and you’re the parent.

Making the Transition a Success

Okay, so you’ve decided it’s time. Here’s how to make the move as smooth as possible:

1. Prepare the room: Childproof EVERYTHING! Get on your hands and knees to see potential hazards from your toddler’s perspective. Anchor furniture, cover outlets, adjust decorations, check blind cords, and consider a door alarm.
2. Involve your child: Talk about the “big kid” bed in advance, read books about it, and let them make small choices like sheet colors or which stuffed animal gets to join them.
3. Communicate clear expectations: Explain that they need to stay in bed until morning and “practice” during the day.
4. Maintain your bedtime routine: Keep everything else the same to provide a sense of security.
5. Have a plan for when they get out of bed: It’s inevitable! Calmly walk them back to bed, tuck them in, and leave the room. Repeat as needed.

Troubleshooting Common Issues

• Early morning wake-ups: This is common in a new bed. Give it time, but an OK-to-Wake clock can help. Honestly, I just teach my kids to play quietly or go to sleep in my bed if they wake up super early.
• Refusal to stay in bed (especially for 2-year-olds): They might not be ready! If possible, consider going back to the crib for a while, co-sleeping, or changing your bedtime routine. Reading to them until they fall asleep works like a charm!

Key Takeaways for Toddler Bed Success:

• Stay calm and validate their feelings.
• Start with a good sleeper (if you are struggling, seek support!).
• Wait until closer to 3 years old if you can.
• Prepare your child in advance.
• Stay consistent with your routine and expectations.