Every new parent faces an avalanche of advice. But what if I told you that some of that advice might be more harmful than helpful?
As a new mom I heard it all from which position my baby should be sleeping to them needing to wear shoes as newborns.
Sometimes it’s good to challenge the widely-held beliefs that could jeopardize your child’s health. Did you know, according to recent studies, nearly 60% of parents might be misled by common parenting myths? This misinformation can lead to unnecessary stress and even risky parenting practices.
If you’re a new parent, shielding your baby from societal myths might be wise in some cases. Read on to find out what is really fact from fiction to help you parent confidently, armed with actual knowledge rather than outdated tales.
Myth #1: Holding Your Baby “Too Much” Spoils Them
We often hear, “Don’t hold your baby too much, or you’ll spoil them.” The truth? Babies thrive on touch. A recent clinical study shows that responsive parenting, including holding your baby, promotes emotional development.
Human contact is crucial in the early stages of life. Think of it as emotional nourishment, not indulgence.
Myth #2: Breastfeeding Always Comes Naturally
Breastfeeding is often portrayed as an instinctive skill, but that’s not the case for everyone. Many parents encounter hurdles, from latching issues to milk supply concerns.
According to the CDC, nearly 60% of mothers do not breastfeed as long as they intend to. Seeking help is a practical choice, not a failing.
Lactation consultants are worth their weight in gold and can steer you towards a more successful breastfeeding journey.
Here are some breastfeeding tips if you’re struggling!
Myth #3: You Can Be a “Perfect” Parent
Imagine if parenting came with a manual… especially for teens, I need that right now! ;) Unfortunately, real life isn’t so straightforward. The myth of the perfect parent is a stressor for new parents rather than a blessing.
A study titled “Aiming to be perfect parents increases the risk of parental burnout, but emotional competence mitigates it” found that striving for perfection in parenting significantly increases the risk of burnout.
Your child doesn’t need perfection; they need love, support, and consistency. Be easy on yourself; after all, you can be a good mom with a messy home, hair in a bun, all while you are a hot mess.
Check out these ==>> Positive Parenting Tips for when your kids won’t listen!
Myth #4: Sleep Training is Cruel
Some critics argue that sleep training is hard-hearted. Yet, numerous studies highlight its benefits, suggesting babies garner crucial sleep for development, while parents gain much-needed rest.
For instance, a study titled “The influence of infant sleep problems and sleep training on maternal subjective well-being” explored how implementing behavioral sleep interventions affected mothers’ well-being. The findings suggested that these interventions might improve life satisfaction, affect, stress, and depression in the short term.
Personally I couldn’t do sleep training and got criticized for not trying it.
Either way the point is mom knows best and you shouldn’t be hard on yourself either way you decide.
If you do go with sleep training think of sleep training not as ignoring your child’s needs but as empowering them to self-soothe, an essential life skill.
Myth #5: All Parenting Happens by Instinct
While instinct plays a role, knowledge-backed strategies are indispensable. Today’s parents have access to so much information and research online. Telehealth appointments are just a phone call away too!
A 2016 survey by ZERO TO THREE found that 69% of parents expressed a desire for more positive parenting strategies, indicating a proactive approach to seeking information.
Knowing when to look for parenting tips versus trusting your gut can transform your parenting experience because you don’t have to go it alone. There is lots of information out there on gentle and positive parenting strategies, like my guide to stopping toddler tantrums!
Trust the Facts, Not Just Traditions
Parenting isn’t just about doing things the way they’ve always been done—it’s about making informed choices that work best for you and your baby. Instead of relying on old advice or nagging in-laws, look to experts, doctors, and adults you admire and trust to figure out how you can best support your child’s well-being.
Being a great parent means staying open to what really works, not just what’s been passed down. It’s good to explore different points of view and what experts and doctors have said. Especially if you are worried about advice you get from well intended friends and family.
The Power of Community
Choosing your village wisely can make a world of difference in parenting. Find communities online and offline where shared experiences and advice resonate with your parenting style.
Align yourself with groups that focus on researched parenting tips from experts and parents who practice the kinds of traits you want in yourself.
Remember, mom support is nice to have, others who know what you’re going through.
Remember These Things
Remember, parenting isn’t about knowing it all. It’s about learning, growing, and continuously adapting to your child’s needs.
If you don’t feel comfortable with someone’s advice then don’t take it. Even if it’s a parent, in-law, or best friend.
There are lots of resources, research, and guidance online about caring for a baby and using positive parenting strategies to guide your kids through life.
Own your choices, be confident, and remember you’ve got this mama!
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